Year 2019

This blog used to be a place for me to throw my rants. Good news is~ it is still the place for me to put some "insight" here. I have been very low profile in the past few years, basically less to no updates or posts for social medias. I just think that the highlight of the day shouldn't be my story. Previously, I was pretty much living in the virtual world rather than the present. For eg. I have more conversations with my virtual friends rather than people around me. Ended up, I can type pretty fast i guess.

 

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Today is the first day of year 2019,

here are some of my resolutions:

1. To continue achieving my past resolutions with minor amendments; 

2. The new resolution shall complement and ease the process to achieve my previous resolutions. 

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Some good tips which I have learnt are as follow:

1. Be nice to people who is nice and treat you like a human. Keep your cool for "failed" human being (in such case, mean, rude, selfish to the max (99.9% only benefits own self), big bully, backstabber, etc). The best thing to deal with difficult person is to treat them like a dust which is a tiny particle and if you don't magnify or focus on the dust, they are hard to see. However, people-like-dust are always dangerous, just remember to keep yourself check from time to time, don't fall into their dramas and tactics. I have a list of people-like-dust, I don't label people easily until they are proven guilty despite I have "sensor" to detect people-like dust (accuracy of 98%, 1% for exception, 1 % is for self-check)

2. There are many systems that being set and play by different parties for various purposes. Ever since I was a kid, my generation was educated to excel in academy and sport in order to be successful in becoming a doctor, accountant, pharmacist or engineer (those professional profession). Nonetheless, what I didn't realize is that you gotta stick to it to be certified and then you may find out that your actual interest is in some other fields. But you have invested your energies, focus and determination longer enough in your current field. Eventually, you believe this is what you do best, and who you are. Until one day, the system fails and it fails you. This is when you really need to redefine who you are. In brief, human are flexible, we need to exercise our potential, body and mind from time to time. We need to invest believe most importantly believe in yourself, observe, analyze and make a stand yourself. Followed by action to bring improvements and steps to strengthen our livelihood.

3. Be hardworking in things that bring change to improve your stability in life (definitely not money). One of the things I hope I practice is to be hardworking in improving myself. I spend lots of time in a system in which I was very hardworking, achieving targets and certificates but often this doesn't play a significant role in myself or my life. What leads to this thought was that I am always busy and the output is zero to myself, basically waking up in the morning, i spent an hour in tidying up myself, the  rest of the day from 7am to 4pm are doing works which are not relevant to my life stability. Obviously, people would say at least "you learn something". I think we need to be aware of the statement people use, somehow they don't even know what they mean. Anyway, the outcome was that I am tired, hectic all the times, typing emails, reports, and dealing with paper works, it doesn't matter if I work in the private sector or government. Eventually, I run out of energy at the end of the day but it is a unfruitful process in terms of contributing to the stability of life. I am old and tired. My advice for people is that, it is not a crime or wrong doing to rest and say no to others if people ask you for a favor. Always make lots of time for yourself to review things which are really important for yourself and which can lead to a stable life. There are many things in life which are distracting and aren't important even though your parents may believe in it. The ultimate question is to ask yourself, what matters the most? and what should you do? if what you can think of at this point is to work as a cleaner, please do what it takes to achieve your life stability.

4. Spend more time in actual life rather than virtual world (unless you earn money from it). Else, spend more time with your family and listen to each other. As we grow up, people before us grow older. Show more concern to them, guide and stay strong together. Remember to pray. To be frank, I am not a religious person. But I have faith in laws and orders of being, a little bit of morals and ethics (45% each). 

5. There was a series of wedding and engagement in year 2018, it was like outdated if I did not marry that year. There will be more babies photos uploaded in year 2019 and onward. Settle down cannot be a rushing decision particularly under the circumstance in which we don't even know well about ourselves. We should love, understand and care about our own well-being. Spending time with your love ones and being confused at the same times is not a good thing, as you are also wasting the time of your love ones. In short, everyone has her timing, remember to work smart and improve the quality of life. This is what I believe leading to a fruitful future. 

Till then, 

Happy new year 2019. 

Be healthy and happy.